It just works well not really 3g iPhone problems Plural

Ive been living with my new 3g iPhone for about a month now and I have to say that Im really disappointed with how many problems Ive encountered! Heres a quick list of my issues.
Syncing the iPhone to my Mac Pro:
Apps being transfered will sometimes hang and than crash my iPhone. My iPhone crashing will cause iTunes to crash. This happens OFTEN!
App Store on the iPhone:
I cannot get this to run smoothly. Whenever I try and download an app/update directly on my iPhone it always crashes and than gets stuck in a horrible loop of trying to download the app/update over and over again. The really annoying part is I cannot delete the half installed app. It just sits on my iPhone ghosted and tries to reinstall itself every once in awhile. The most annoying part of is that it will always freeze up anything else Im doing on the phone!!!! So while its download/installing Ill go to my address book and BOOM it locks up my entire system!!!!! I hold the home button to try and get back to the main screen with no luck. I hold the power button but still no luck. I actually have to reboot the iPhone by holding down the power button and the home key!
This happens all the time!
Contacts:
Nine times out of ten Ill go to my contact list and it will hang for about 5 seconds before it will let me scroll through my contacts. If I hold the home button to force quit out of the Address app and than relaunch the app the lag is gone. Sure this is a work around but why shouldnt it just work!? Better yet why hasnt this been addressed in one of the two updates that have been pushed out????
PUSH:
I have my push technology turned on and set up properly but it doesnt always work as advertised! Plus I feel tricked by Apple into thinking that everything would push including my mail! Dont even get me started on MobileMe! Wasnt it demoed that if you change something on one device it pushes to the rest (between macs as well)! I know theyve publicly come out (after the fact) and said that its not the case and that it does not really work that way! Anyone else feel duped!
Ive tried restoring my iPhone a number of times and even had my iPhone swapped out but all the same problem remained. Ive even restored the OS on my Mac Pro just to have a super pure system.
Nothing seems to help. When will these software bugs be addressed? Im so tired of dealing with this buggy software!!!
Ive been a long time Apple user and I cant remember ever being this annoyed with them!
What happened to their old modo IT JUST WORKS!
Anyone else getting as frustrated as me??? I know many people are suffering from individual problems (even some Ive mentioned) but is anyone suffering from many problems like myself???
Has anyone found the updates to have helped or solved any of their problem or know of them fixing any of the problems Ive listed?
I know the iPhone is an awesome device but if the software makes you want to throw it out the window how cool is it than?? Im so tired of my iPhone. I really wish I didnt feel like saying that!
3g iPhone Mac OS X (10.5.2) mac pro 2 x 2.66 Dual-Core Intel Xeon - Memory: 4 GB 667 MHz